Remember that prohibiting many behaviors to children is only overprotecting them and this is not correct under any circumstances. For this, it is necessary that you have more patience and be consistent with the upbringing that you provide to your children. These behaviors are:
- Play with noise. Children to play and have fun need to run, jump, climb, scream … not stop moving! If this is usually done by your children, then you should know that you are in luck, they are happy! Children need to move and play in this way to learn to express their emotions and to relax. It is necessary to educate but not to prohibit … patience and rules are necessary, as long as the child is allowed to move and express themselves freely.
- Talk. Parents wait patiently for their little ones to speak, but when they can talk and won’t stop, they may ask their children to be quiet. Perhaps as a result of parental stress or simply not wanting to have a conversation, they are wrong if they forbid talking. Children will think that they are doing something wrong or that what they say is not interesting. They will lose trust in the beings they love the most: their parents. They will feel that they are not enough for them.
- To draw. With the excuse that parents don’t want their children to mess up, children are not allowed to paint and draw. This restricts their expressiveness and creativity. Therefore, give it an adequate space for your child to develop her imagination and express her emotions in the best possible way.
- Eating without help. Adults do not like children to make a mess so they prevent them from eating alone thus limiting their independence. They prefer to feed them so that they do not dirty or stain anything. Children actually need the opportunity to learn to eat and gain confidence in their own abilities. And for this, it is necessary that they eat alone, without help and also in the first few times … they will also need to stain.
- Give your opinion. Just as a child needs and should talk to her parents to learn to communicate and improve her social skills, she also needs to always be allowed to give her opinion. Children have their own thoughts and wishes and need to be able to express them freely. In this sense, they should never be held back from doing so.
With limits but without prohibiting everything
It is normal for adults to prohibit certain behaviors from children, especially when there may be a real danger. But children should not be forbidden too much because then they will not be able to evolve properly or learn from the consequences of their own actions. This means that there are behaviors that adults forbid just because of their internal fears.
When adults prohibit because of their own internal fears, they will be inhibiting their children’s learning and children will grow up thinking that there are too many dangerous things that they must always avoid. This will generate unnecessary fears and insecurities, and they could even develop a dependent personality. In this sense, whenever adults prohibit behaviors in their children, it is necessary to do so in moderation and allow some behaviors (not dangerous) to have them to learn through positive consequences.